Lies. Lies. And more lies. “You’re not good enough,” “You’ll never accomplish anything,” “Your life is a joke,” “God doesn’t love you,” “You were a mistake,” “Nobody wants you,” “You’re not worth it,” “You’ll never have children,” “You’ll never get married,” and the lies go on and on. Ever heard or been told one of these before? Every night in your attempt to get some rest you are constantly interrupted by these lies roaming in your head. You wake up with hope that it will all be over yet another lie whispers itself into your head and makes your mind its home. We all struggle with negative voices inside our head. Unfortunately the lies will not stop from coming, but we can control their impact on our life. There are a few sources you can reach out to for comfort but there is one ultimate source that is guaranteed to be effective and life changing.
Men, women, alcohol, sex, drugs, and self harm are a few of the sources some of you may pursue in order to escape from those lies so loud in your head. Disconnecting or distracting yourself from these thoughts in your head for a mere moment of time is all you ask for. However, the comfort is only temporary when these ineffective sources are pursued. Maybe you don’t know the one ultimate source that provides true comfort and absolute peace during moments of despair. Or maybe you do know yet choose to pursue the wrong sources for whatever reasons. God alone is the answer. God alone is the solution to these lies inside our head. One of my all time favorite authors and speakers Lysa Terkeurst puts it this way, “Lies flee in the presence of truth.” When we speak truth over these lies, we leave no room for the lies to continue hindering us from living abundantly the way God intended for us to live (John 10:10). Neither man nor woman will love you the way God loves you, no drug or alcohol will remove the pain for good the way God does, sex won’t satisfy the way God satisfies, and self harming won’t make you feel any better about yourself than God’s absolute truth about you.
If we are to overcome these lies inside our head we must know the truth and the truth shall set us free (John 8:32). God is truth and His word is true. He is the only source of strength for our life journey. Without His strength we are unable to overcome, unable to rejoice, unable to rest and be still. Therefore reach out to God, the ultimate source of absolute strength. Take hold of his promises for your life. Not taking hold of God’s promises for you can drastically alter what God intended for your life to look like. Remember, “lies flee in the presence of truth” and God’s promises are the truth we must deeply dwell on in order to overcome the lies of the enemy- the devil. Allow the following truths to sink deep within your soul before you continue reading.
“I am loved” (John 3:16; Ephesians 2:4-5; Romans 5:8)
“I am an over-comer” (Romans 8:37-39; 1 John 5:4-5)
“I am forgiven” (Ephesians 4:31-32; Colossians 1:13-14)
“I am chosen” (1 Peter 2:9; Ephesians 1:4; Ephesians 2:10)
“I am redeemed” (Ephesians 1:7; Galatians 3:13)
“I am strong” (Philippians 4:13; Isaiah 40:29; Psalm 46:1; Proverbs 31:25)
“I am a new creation” (2 Corinthians 5:17)
“I am set apart” (Jeremiah 1:5; 2 Timothy 2:21)
“I am created with a purpose” (Jeremiah 29:11)
“I am God’s masterpiece” (Ephesians 2:10)
“I am His” (1 Corinthians 3:23)
Remind yourself of these truths when you feel unloved, defeated, unworthy, weak, or rejected. Your declarations of these truths have power to transform your situation.
As mentioned earlier, we all struggle with negative voices inside our heads. Lies. They simply infest us with nothing but fear, doubt, anxiety, and depression. I would like to share the story of some great friends I truly value and cherish, who have greatly impacted my life through their own personal challenges and yet overcame because of their choice to reach out and hang on to the ultimate source of strength, God. After being married for 2 years, my friends Alex and Barbara decided it was time to try and conceive a child. Not knowing they would be embarking on the most challenging, faith-testing season of their lives, they tried for a year until they eventually came to the conclusion that Barbara was infertile. Quickly without hesitation Alex and Barbra sought God.
On the 27th of January 2013, they attended a church service in which the preacher had mentioned there was a couple in the building that was having difficulties conceiving. Without the preacher knowing anything about what my friends were going through, he prayed and prophesied over them declaring God’s promise of a child to them. My friends held tight to that promise. Although God promised them a child, the timing of that promise was unknown. My friend Barbra expected to get pregnant right away after she received that promise. However, God’s promises for our life aren’t necessarily fulfilled the next day or the day after that. Rather than His promises are fulfilled in His perfect timing. Meanwhile, we are to hold on tight to those promises and trust that no matter what happens, God will surely fulfill His promises to us. After seeing the doctor and getting tests done, Barbara was diagnosed with endometriosis. This disease is the result of tissue that normally grows inside the uterus grows outside. Major symptoms of this disease are pelvic pain and infertility. That day when Alex and Barbara received the unfortunate news, they left the doctor’s office feeling discouraged and confused.
“But God promised us,” was what my friends thought over and over again after hearing the devastating news. They couldn’t understand why things weren’t falling into place. In fact, things were falling apart and not making sense to them at all. It was during this very vulnerable time in their lives in which Satan repeatedly whispered his lies, “You’re not good enough to be a mother,” and “You’ll never get pregnant.” Satan even tried to go against God’s promise to them by whispering that the words of hope spoken over them were a lie. Despite the heartache and darkness, Alex and Barbara chose to hold on to each other, and most importantly to God. Alex was a huge support for Barbara, together they would pray and believe that this was God’s plan for them and that they would have children just as God promised. With each day that passed they reminded themselves of Matthew 7:7 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” They continually asked God for their child, sought God for His peace, joy and strength, and they continually knocked on the doors of Heaven. They also reminded themselves of Hebrews 10:23, “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.” Alex and Barbara were able to get through this difficult season in their life by constantly reminding themselves that God’s promises always come to pass and to always choose to not believe the lies of the devil.
Let me remind you that although Alex and Barbara sought God and held tight to His promises, it was still extremely difficult for them. For Alex, the enemy whispered lies of insecurity. He struggled with believing that his wife Barbara would ever conceive and that them trying was simply a waste of time. Being the man in the relationship meant he had to be strong for both of them. Seeing his wife disappointed and weary because they couldn’t conceive was difficult for him. Nonetheless Alex tried his best to remain strong yet he admits he was heartbroken on the inside knowing his wife was suffering and not happy with their circumstance. This time of brokenness for them was surely tough enduring but instead of breaking them and defining them, the brokenness of them only made them stronger.
One of their greatest challenges during this painful season of their life was waiting and not simply waiting but patiently waiting for God and His perfect timing for them. They had waited three years before God blessed them with their bundle of joy and His miracle to them. Before the three-year mark, waiting felt like an eternity for them. Especially when they had heard other stories of couples that waited five years yet others waited ten years before they were able to conceive. When Alex and Barbara began to hear the length of time it took for other couples to conceive, fear entered their hearts and instead of remaining patient, they took matters into their own hands and considered seeing a fertility doctor. They tried prescription drugs to help facilitate the process of conception but deep down they knew God simply wanted them to wait. Patiently wait for Him without worry and without fear. It was then when they really prayed and fasted for their child whom God had already promised to them. They trusted God wholeheartedly and He faithfully delivered!
Now, after three long years of waiting, Alex and Barbara give God all the praise and all the glory for seeing them through and not giving up on them when it felt like He had forsaken them. Their baby boy is a reminder of God’s faithfulness to them and His never-ending love for them. Their son is now seven months old and every moment I see him I myself am reminded of God’s faithfulness to all His children. I hope Alex and Barbara’s story encourages you to continue believing or believe again, keep enduring or to endure again, and to keep fighting or to fight again. In addition, I hope you are encouraged to ask, seek, and knock. Most importantly, I hope you are encouraged to hold on tight to the promises God has given you through His precious Word-the bible.
Lastly, I want you to fully know and understand that God is our ultimate source of strength. No matter how difficult your circumstance or situation may be, God is greater and stronger than all of it! It can be easy to allow the whispering lies of Satan enter our heart and mind when were not constantly seeking God or declaring His promises over our life. Despite the difficulty, choose to believe God and not the lies of the enemy. Choose to fix your eyes on Him who gives you strength to do all things (Philippians 4:13) and that includes focusing on Him and not on your problem. Like a tree firmly planted in the ground, its roots keep it from falling or breaking during a storm. Similarly, when our roots are deep within God’s word we cannot be overtaken by Satan and his lies. We may bend a little but not broken because the Spirit of God dwells on the inside of us giving us all the strength we need to withstand any storm we may encounter in the course of our life. I highly encourage you to listen to Strength by Sada K. Let this song be your response to God in the midst of your trials.