Although there are several types of people in this world, I want to focus on two types of girls. First, there is the type of girl who seeks to be known, in other words, she seeks to be famous. Second, there is the type of girl who seeks to make others known.
The girl who seeks to make herself known operates from a mentality of “Me.” While the girl who seeks to make others known operates from a mentality of “Him.” The major difference between these two types of girls is that one seeks to glorify her-self and the other seeks to glorify the Father. God.
Although you may have encountered these girls in your life, let me introduce you to them in a more detailed manner.
Type of Girl # 1: The Materialistic Girl
The materialistic girl is all about herself and getting others to praise her, like her, love her, follow her, and comment on her good looks, outfits, hair, makeup etc. Now don’t get me wrong. Having people admire your beauty and fashion is not a bad thing or wrong at all. What’s bad is your search for attention. Are you genuinely attracting people’s attention based on your natural self? Or are you intentionally seeking to attract people’s praise by posting about your looks and your possessions?
Type of Girl # 2: The Kingdom Minded Girl
The kingdom minded girl is all about God and serving others rather than being served by others. Everything she does has purpose. Everything she posts has meaning. And her intentions are always to bring honor and glory to God her heavenly Father. The kingdom minded girl chooses to use the life she was given to be a positive influence and role model in another girl’s life. She is more concerned about encouraging others to follow Jesus and praising Him. Rather than following or praising her.
Let’s be honest. There are countless of girls out there who consider themselves “influencers.” However, what is their motive behind their actions and words and especially their posts? Social media is full of both these types of girls. While scrolling through my feed, I couldn’t help but notice these two types of girls out there.
“But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
– 1 Samuel 16:7
What’s most important to you? The way you look or the condition of your heart?
Seriously though. Think about it for a minute before you continue reading. Be honest with yourself.
Don’t know yet? Ask yourself the following questions to find your answer:
- Do I spend more time on shopping for an outfit or picking one out, than shopping for a faith-based book or picking out a devotional?
- Do I spend more time on putting on makeup than putting on the armor of God by reading his Word-the bible?
- Do I spend more time doing my hair than I do listening to sermons or praying?
Again, don’t get me wrong. Spending time on your self is great! And I highly encourage you to do so! But are you also spending significant amount of time in your spirituality? If your spirituality is not increasing, something is not right. Remember, God looks at your heart. He doesn’t focus on your outward appearance. He focuses on the condition of your heart. God can’t take you places you want to go if your heart is not right first. Our character is what matters most to Him.
I’m not perfect and I hope that’s not what you think of me when you read my posts and blogs, or when you look at my pictures on social media. I don’t want you to look at my social media feed and feel less than or less beautiful or less anything. I want you to look at my feed and be empowered to embrace your own journey without having to compare it to someone else’s.
Before I post or share anything on social media, I pause for a heart check. What’s my motive? What’s the purpose for me posting this? The last thing I want is people comparing themselves to me. Please consider the questions listed above. Take time to reflect on them. Don’t look at people through your human eyes. Strive to look at others through God’s eyes.
When we focus on the outward appearance of others, we automatically begin to compare ourselves to them. God, I don’t ever want to fall into the comparison game because of what I see other girls doing or posting about on social media. Sisters, let’s focus on us, on our heart, and on cultivating our inward beauty rather than our outward appearance.
“A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.”
– Proverbs 22:1
How do you want to be known or described by others?
Do you lean on your worldly riches for approval? Or do you depend on the Holy Spirit to impact the lives of those around you?
What do you desire most? A good reputation or fame?
It’s better to be considered and regarded for our internal value (integrity, dignity, and noble character) than to be chosen for our external accomplishments or beauty. Are you more concerned about the amount of “likes” and comments you get on your social media feed, than you are about the number of lives you are impacting or influencing with your true character?
I want to be a kingdom minded type of girl. What about you? What type of girl do you want to be?