Wow! I can still remember the ending of 2016 and getting ready for 2017. As usual, I entered the New Year with expectancy for greater and better things than what the year before had in store. Surprisingly, 2017 was a year of growth for me rather than a year of prosperity like I had hoped for. Nonetheless 2017 was filled with wonder and unexpected blessings.
Experience #1: Hanging out with the right crowd will take you further than you ever will on your own.
Ever since I was a little girl I have always been apart of a certain group or click. You would never see me alone or isolated from others. I enjoyed being among the crowd and having others to socialize with. With every school grade I passed, I always had new friends that were similar to me. By similar I’m referring to similar mindsets. The fact I was hanging out with people who also wanted to be successful and purposeful, motivated me to work harder and sacrifice more. Competition presented itself within my group of friends. However, it was the healthy form of competition that enabled us to get closer to our individual goals. Throughout my adolescence and early adulthood up until now, hanging out with the right people (not necessarily friends) has only gotten me closer to my dreams and desires. Without their drive to be better and desire to succeed and conquer, I would not be half the person I am today.
Is this the kind of “love story” you want? Falling in love, getting your heart broken and then repeating that same process all over again with someone else. Maybe this is the only “love story” you have heard of because you haven’t learned to count the cost. In my blog titled Love Doesn’t Hurt. Loving the Wrong Person Does (Read blog here). I write about heartbreak and how choosing the wrong person to invest our love in can lead to a devastating hurt.
Although love doesn’t hurt, love creates an atmosphere for potential rejection, heartbreak and/or a messy relationship. This is why counting the cost between the person you are interested in and the guarding of your heart is extremely important.
Before you think about getting into a relationship, you must first ask yourself, “Is this guy or girl worth the risk of me being rejected or getting my heart broken?” Often times, this question is hardly asked and the lack of asking it can result in regret.
Whose been in love? Hands down. I’m sure most of you have at least once. I’ve been in love multiple times. Most of those times loving caused me some serious hurt. Hurt that takes months and even years to fully heal.
I now have a better understanding of what dating should look like. It’s definitely not going out with multiple guys until you feel “loved” by one of them! Continue reading “Love Doesn’t Hurt. Loving the Wrong Person Does.”